Steps to Self-Confidence Building

God has made you unique

The very first step in building self-confidence is to accept yourself in an unconditional way. You are human, therefore you are not perfect, so don?t dwell on what you see as flaws. Everyone has qualities that someone else does not. This is what makes us want to go out and find partners who give us love, and make us feel wanted and complete. Those great feelings would not be possible if you were perfect.

Accept yourself how you are

It will help to rid you of constant stress and worry over things that you cannot control. Do what you want! How long it has been since you last did something that you really liked, something that you enjoyed doing as a child? How long has it been since you went out for ice cream with a friend? These simple things have the power to build your self-confidence and add fulfillment to your life. Life can be very quite simple. It is easy to get caught u in the rat race of today?s world, and lose yourself in the process. It is easy to forget your purpose, what you like and what you enjoy doing. It happens to people all of the time. It is your responsibility to yourself that you get back to those simple things in life.

Find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things

You?ve heard the saying, ?birds of a feather flock together?. It is important to find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things. You will find that life is a little bit easier when you are among the people who share your interests and your feelings. There is an understanding between you, as well as an open dialogue. Good conversation and friendship are healthy and important for our minds and souls.

Set achievable goals and go for them!

Take one step at a time. Those single steps will develop into a giant gait over time. Do not overwhelm yourself, but simply do the task at hand. But set achievable goals and go for them! Don?t focus on the big picture, concentrate on the small steps. This is the only way to accomplish anything, and to avoid procrastination and depression. Even the smallest achievement will give you a sense of accomplishment that will boost your self-confidence.

Only You Can Overcome Your Frustration!

The only way to deal with Frustration is to have more fun.

Frustration is nothing but certain unpleasant feelings which are created by your own mind. These could be due to unfullfilled desires, unaccomplished tasks etc.

It is impossible to enjoy yourself and be frustrated at the same time.So go out in the weekend, play with your children or have a good time with your friends. On Monday, you will be much less frustrated at work.

If your frustration concerns your relationship: take time for enjoying yourself (without forgetting your partner). You will be happier and that will have a positive effect on your relationship. If you have responsible tasks that frustrate you: make sure that you have a good time in other situations. When you get a happy feeling, your responsible task will seem much easier.

The only way to deal with Frustration is to have more self-confidence.

People who are frustrated have the feeling that their situation is to difficult to deal with. So one solution to deal with this frustration is : build more self confidence. Two bits of advice for self confidence:

1. Say your affirmations. Sit and write down what you need to believe for self confidence. For example: I am self confident. I am able to deal with this situation. I love myself and I am good. Write your own affirmations and say them twice a day.

The only way to deal with Frustration is to have more love.

Possibly your children are frustrating you. You are angry with your children, but you also feel love and you want to help them even when they do terrible things that frustrate you. If its your spouse who is frustrating you, you can still remember your love for her or him and you want to do everything to help.

When people at work are frustrating you, instead of hating them, consider loving them more. Love will heal more than you can imagine. Both in your family, your relationship and at work: have more love. Maybe you are so frustrated that you cannot feel love anymore. Then take a few minutes and sit in a chair. Imagine a star of light. Send this star of light to the person or the situation that is frustrating you. After you do this a few times you will be able to feel love again. Send your love to the person or the situation. You can be sure that you will receive it back one way or another.

So if you have to deal with frustration, try one, two or all three of these suggestions and your life will become much easier.

Confidence: Its all in the mind

When referring to the current economic challenges, Niall Ferguson, the journalist and prolific author who specializes in financial and economic history tells us that “Fifty percent of the problem is confidence.” When I heard him say that on the BBC, I decided to further investigate by interviewing a couple of City Fund Managers and analysts. Each of the individuals I spoke to concurred with Mr. Ferguson’s take. In fact, some of them believe that it's much higher than 50%!

So, I thought to myself, if what Ferguson and other economic experts are saying about confidence is accurate, we can fix that… can’t we? A healthy self-confidence is pivotal when making any important decision. It enables us to be passionate, resolute and focused. So what happens when our confidence becomes weakened, or eroded? Or more importantly, what do we need to do when we’re able to recognise those debilitating feelings?

A lack of self-confidence is often brought on by unhelpful thoughts, thoughts that often are not verifiable. Contemporary psychologists call that kind of thinking, catastrophizing. So, if we can better manage our emotions, can we better manage ourselves in business? The answer is an unequivocal yes, of course we can. Daniel Goleman’s books on EQ (Emotional Intelligence) are perfect foils for those of you who are feeling a little less steady on your feet. Having used EQ in my personal life and my coaching practice since its inception about 20 years ago, I can attest to the positive effect it has on people. It teaches us how to manage our emotions, in effect, to transcend them. EQ is one of the most helpful ways we can prevent ourselves being at the mercy of those negative feelings.

As Steve Forbes, editor-in-chief of business magazine Forbes and former U.S Presidential candidate said in a recent BBC interview - “Emotion is your enemy.”

Steps to building Super Memory!

The Brain is made up of 2 parts - the Left which is your Logical Portion- which takes care of Numbers, sequence, logic, words, lines, lists, analysis etc. The Right side of the brain is the more creative portion- which accounts for Rhythm, colour, shapes, imagination etc.

Right from school, our teachers, our parents taught us only one thing - Stop dreaming and start doing!! We are forced to use the left more and more! As a result we end up without a balance.

Step 1:

Use Both sides of your brain - All geniuses, who have created new things, written poems, have all been people who use both sides of the brain! This is the first step towards improving your memory! Start forcing yourself to think in Non sequential manner! How? more on that later.

Step 2:

Start thinking colour (or color for our American friends). Do you remember things from your past - very happy occassions where you can visualize the dress you wore, you can "see" things in its original colours! The brain remembers Colour. Leverage that power!

Step 3:

Start thinking Pictures - Create pictures - colourful ones, ridiculous in their logic, things that you would not dare tell anyone else- but so completely delightful, that your brain enjoys itself.

Step 4:

Start creating "Links" or chains! Do you have these birthday game where a number of items are dropped off a box for you to look at and then covered again. You are expected to write down what you remember. Most people dont remember more than 5-6 things! By linking things up- using a Story for example- can help people connect things together! Use both sides of your brain- and create completely absurd, illogical, colourful stories with pictures - and try to play this game again! You will be surprised!

Step 5:

Learn the basics of Mindmapping - Mindmap is a tool that Buzan introduced- on how the brain works & stores information. It is a way of working the way the brain works and create a mindmap that uses, colours, links, pictures etc.. It will change the way you will look at the world- the way you work, the way you read, the way you remember! It has been proved time and again- and I want to introduce these 2 elements for you to consider.

7 Tips to great Career!

Here goes your 7 Tips to great career
- If you are solution-focused you'll be more creative.
- Reflect on and record the times you've been creative.
- Use practical things to prompt your thoughts, like shapes and colours
- Develop different techniques for doing the same job.
- Find practical ways to create your ideas and spend time making them work
- Creative ideas should be fresh, fun, feasible.
- Dare to think the unthinkable!

ATTITUDE story! Interesting!

An old man lived alone in Minnesota . He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison.

The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation: Dear Son, I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won't be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden because your mother always loved planting time. I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren't in prison. Love, Dad

Shortly, the old man received this telegram: 'For Heaven's sake, Dad, don't dig up the garden!! That's where I buried the GUNS!!'

At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.

Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what had happened, and asked him what to do next.

His son's reply was: 'Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad. It's the best I could do for you, from here.'

MORAL: " NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN THE WORLD, IF YOU HAVE DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING DEEP FROM YOUR HEART, YOU CAN DO IT. IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT MATTERS, NOT WHERE YOU ARE OR WHERE THE PERSON IS. "

What each kiss means!!!!!!!( All round personality)

Here is the additional information to improve your personality:

Kiss on the stomach “lets have sex”

Kiss on the Forehead “Forever you will be mine”
Kiss on the Ear “I’m horny”
Kiss on the Cheek “We’re friends”
Kiss on the Hand “I adore you”
Kiss on the Neck “We belong together”

Kiss on the Shoulder “I want you”

Kiss on the Lips “I love you” OR “I want you”

Holding Hands “We can learn to love each other”

Slap on the Butt “That’s mine”
Playing with the Ear “I can’t live without you”
Holding on tight “Don’t let go”

Looking into each other’s Eyes “Don’t leave me”

Playing with Hair on Head “Tell me you love me”
Arms around the Waist “I love you too much to let go”
Laughing while Kissing “I am completely Comfortable with you”

I am sue this would have enhance your personality a bit.

10 Powerful Meditation Techniques and TipsBy Michaiel Bovenes

Meditation is a powerful way to reduce stress, feel better and develop inner peace. You can become more conscious of your truer self. Meditations' true purpose is to shift your consciousness from the outer world to your inner world, where all change begins. Meditation offers you a way to create a pause in your daily activity to consciously connect with your inner power. Here are ten tips I teach new students.

1. Establish a quiet space to meditate. Find a comfortable room in which you are going to meditate regularly, especially in the beginning as you are learning to relax and quiet your mind.

2. Select a meditation chair. Do not lie down and try and meditate on your bed, unless you want to fall asleep. Your subconscious mind associates your bed with sleep. So find a couch or designate a special chair that you will meditate in.

3. Find a meditation time when you will least likely be disturbed. If the kids come home from school at 3:30, don't try and meditate at 4PM. Rather choose a time when you will be interruption free as much as possible. Please turn off the ringer on your phones. If you receive a call when you are meditating you can return it later.
4. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Repeat this 5-10 times. You can mentally repeat the words "relax" as you exhale.

5. Meditation is a mental function that has many physical forms. Meditation can take the form of long distance running, gazing into a fireplace (while there is a fire burning, of course), sunbathing at the beach, Tai-Chi and, even weight-lifting are some common examples of moving meditations. These forms allow your thoughts to slow down and your mind to become reflective. We all have the capacity to train our minds to have the same effect without running ten miles or driving to the beach. Moving meditations do have one draw back, the individual must still give attention to the physical world, thus reducing the clarity and guidance that would otherwise be there if they were to close their eyes and shift their full attention inward. So don't worry about being perfectly still.

6. Relax your Eyes. We project an enormous amount of energy through our eyes. When you desire to relax your body, start with your eyes. A great way to relax the tiny muscles in and around your eyes is to do this exercise. Keeping your eyes closed simply lift them up, then look down, then look to the right and then to the left, holding for 5-10 seconds in each position to stretch your eye muscles, then allow them to softly go back to center.

7. Relax your tongue. If your tongue is pressed against the roof of your mouth or behind your front teeth, then you are in the mind-frame for speaking which is not a meditative state. When you relax your tongue and allow it to go back into the center of your mouth, your mind will slow down your thinking process. Try it right now. Let close your eyes and relax your tongue and notice how your mind subtly shifts into a more relaxed state.

8. Visualization versus Imagination. If you can't visualize in your minds eye, don't worry. Imagination includes all of your five senses to communicate to your body. It might be easier for you to imagine the smell of the ocean and hear the sounds in your mind. Imagining the smell and sounds can be easier for some then visualizing. Your imagination is very powerful, so learn to use it.

9. Scan your body for tension. Mentally take an inventory of your physical body and where you tend to hold onto stress. If it is in your shoulders, it is ok to tighten them, holding for a moment and then relax them. This is called progressive relaxation and can help break the bond of tension in your body. Scan your body and those tight areas flex and relax while you breath slowly repeating the word "relax" with your exhale.

10. A good way to relax those pesky thoughts. Don't be frustrated as you begin learning to meditate. It is natural to have many thoughts come to you when you're learning to meditate. An example... If you worry about a report due at work while meditating, don't fight it. Listen to your inner concerns and then release it. If you can't stop your mind from thinking (I have to finish that report by Tuesday morning), simply take in a deep breath and as you exhale imagine your blowing that thought out of your head. Perhaps see the words written on a chalk board and imagine you are blowing the message off the board with your exhale. Or imagine you are erasing it. This gives the subconscious mind a very clear message.

On a spiritual level... learning how to meditate offers a ritual to commune with your Soul to receive guidance, healing and wisdom from within.

On a mental level... meditation will bring you clarity and can reveal deeper understanding about the way you're living you life, and what thoughts and beliefs are holding you back.

On an emotional level... meditating offers a way to get in touch with your feelings and to resolve them constructively producing profound inner peace.

On a physical level... meditation is a stress reducer, as you practice it on a regular basis, you will renew your physical energy and stamina. The siesta times many countries honor is a great way to bring balance back into a busy life-style, even if it's only a 15 minute meditation on your lunch break at work.

Michaiel Patrick Bovenes is a personal empowerment teacher and speaker and author. Since 1994, he's published a popular series of guided visualization meditations, called, "Soul-utions". Michaiel currently resides in San Francisco, CA and teaches throughout the USA and Canada. Receive Free Meditation MP3 Download at his website at: RelaxationMeditations.com
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Juggling with Life

"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will realise Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.”

Truth of Life

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: 'I am blind, please help.' There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked,

'Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?'

The man said, 'I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.'

What he had written was: 'Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.' Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?

Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so blessed that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

Dream Deep, for every dream precedes the goal!! (Determination)

Ever try to put the skids on an ant? Its virtually impossible.

They never stop.
Put one to the test some day. Pretend you are five years old again, and make a little hill in the ant's path. The ant will walk up and over the top without braking. It will go into a hole, over a log, through grass. If it can't go through, it will go around. An ant will never turn around and walk the other way, no matter what obstacles are in its path.

Try applying that kind of tenacity to your life. Of Course, you'll want to use your brain too. But in the determination department, be an ant. Refuse to be stopped. Keep going, and learn as you go.

People who patiently persist, finally see their dreams come true.

20th October 2011

The day seems slow and with the corresponding weather that goes with it, everything else becomes slow and damped.